I don't know how many fellow writers share that they are aspiring authors. I know I have never really done so with strangers. It's been just this past year that I've shared a bit more about my writing with relatives since I signed with an agent.
Other than that, I'm pretty closed mouth about it, because well, the obvious reason is I'm not published and it's difficult for me to share my hopes and dreams. I've placed in one short story contest, not adding up to a whole lotta proof I have talent. =)
However, last night I had a school meeting for one of my kids, and it was a "share about yourself" scenario with another parent in class. When asked what I do in my spare time, I hesitated, then finally blurted, "I write." The woman's expression became interested and she asked a few questions because we were supposed to share the information with the other parents.
Anyway, I've known this teacher for a couple of years and I had never mentioned that I was a writer before. So when the woman announced it, it was this big eyes-all-on-me thing: "Kelly, you write? When did this happen?" I turned red from having everyone focus on me! And admitted that yes, I have an agent and that I was trying to get a book published.
What I'm getting at is that when you actually acknowledge you're a writer to people, there's also this little fear that they now know you're trying to get published, but are wondering if it will really happen! For instance, every time I see my relatives, they ask, "How's the writing going?" And I say, "good." For some reason you're expected to say something positive, like you're sold! And if I go into the complicated process of submissions and editors and publishing houses soon their eyes start to glaze over. I'm telling you it opens up a whole can of worms when you admit you're a writer!! LOL!
And now I'm thinking I should have kept my big mouth shut at the school meeting. ;D
Friday, September 2
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I still have trouble admitting I'm a writer. Those in my family know, and they do ask me about it. They think I should get paid more for what I do write, but they don't understand how hard it is to establish yourself as a writer, and making a living off of your words is even harder.
I don't divulge anything unless I'm pressed. I just don't feel like explaining myself.
Tanya
I agree about the discomfort. It's a pretty solitary endeavor, isn't it? But I suppose that's one of the reasons we're here on blogs.
I could have written this post. I do not share my writing with anyone. I hate admitting I'm a writer because then you get the tons of questions like what do you write, what have you published, when will you publish, etc., etc. When I worked a few people knew, but I was so far from publication I didn't really care. As I get closer, I get more close-mouthed. When I have answers to their questions, I'll be more open.
I rarely say anything about my writing. Not even to my parents. They act like it's just a little hobby with me which pisses me off to no end. I don't think they think I'll ever really get published. So, it's annoying and frustrating.
Gina, it is true people who do not study the publishing industry, don't understand how hard it is to break into!
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I understand, Tanya, because even when you do explain it's like speaking a foreign language to them. ;)
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Yes, Jason, that's one of the great things about blogging. You can connect with other individuals & those who write.
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Rene, I'm glad I'm not alone with these feelings! It's almost like we only feel comfortable discussing it with our own kind. LOL!
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Sorry to hear that, Tori! Just believe in yourself and show them they are wrong! =D
Yeah, kind of like lepers lol
I haven't really shared it up until just lately.
When I went to RT, my daughter's prescool teacher asked what I was going away for. I admitted it was for writing. It was sort of a good moment for me. LOL but at the time it was embaressing.
Right, Rene! LOL
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Mechele, that's what happened to me last night. *snicker*
you know what's weird about this is that i still don't like telling people that i'm a writer. i've tried to figure it out -- and i think it's because it suddenly puts me on the spot. at first, they simply don't believe me and think i'm lying. this is followed by probing, and then they begin to think it might be true. suddenly i'm being scrutinized in a way i dislike, and i feel that i have to perform and prove myself. (say something clever!!) and one thing kind of feeds the other, because now i always brace myself for the weird reaction. it would be easier to just lie, but i don't want to do that.
It took me probably 2 1/2 years to admit to people I didn't know well that I write. Some of my friends (not close ones) still don't know, or just found out because I sold. It's much easier now because yes, they ALWAYS ask, have you been published?
You've nailed it exactly.
...and then my husband had to go and blab it all over town.
man, I could have writtten this post! Must go over to my blog and write about this. Who supports my writing, who doesn't it. When aspiring writers come out of the closet...
Anne, why do some people believe writers are such interesting specimens?? I know for one thing, I'd hate to be a celebrity. Look what the paparazzi does to them. LOL!
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Amy, yep, the lady asked me right away, "Are you published?" =D Eek. Must be an instant reaction!
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Bernita, your husband must be very proud! =D
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LOL, Kacey!! Definitely, that's a good headline!!
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